Lena Dunham’s romcom Too Much convinced me to propose on the spot

I have been with my partner Martin for 10 years and he has always said he doesn’t want to get married, seeing the institution as state control and inherently patriarchal. I, meanwhile, had my whole wedding day mapped out since I was seven: when other children played Pokémon I was thinking about how many tiki torches I wanted to light the way to the blessing ceremony.

Despite all that planning, I’d given up on the idea of getting married—until I watched Too Much. Too Much is Lena Dunham’s 2025 Netflix show about Jessica (Meg Stalter), a loud, chaotic woman who often displays poor judgment, like getting wasted at a work party and stealing a soap dish.

Her love interest, Felix (Will Sharpe), is flawed and difficult himself, but he adores Jessica in a dogged, unquestioning way. Time and again—on screen and in life—I am drawn to a man who falls hard for a slightly mad woman. I see myself as the flappy, loud woman and Martin as the devoted partner who loves her anyway.

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