I met my husband in the Dull Men’s Club

I found the Dull Men’s Club on Facebook in late 2023; it’s now called Banana for Scale, a nod to a running joke. The group celebrates ordinary things with a dry humour — one member posts about outings with his friend Nigel, others show off rock collections. A UK post of crumpets with the caption “This is what an English crumpet looks like.

They’re light and fluffy, and we toast them and smother them in butter. If you get a chance, you will enjoy them.” convinced me to join. A few weeks after joining I was added to a group chat and met Luke, a British man living in the UK. He talked about ironing his T‑shirts, keeping a strict budget spreadsheet and having a routine for evening meals.

We spent five to six hours on video calls and bonded over the dullness of simplicity; after a chaotic upbringing, he balanced out my nervous system. After two months of daily calls he asked if he could fly over, and I said yes.

United Kingdom

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